I'm sorry he's being this way. My OH has suspected EDS, so is very supportive and we seem to take turns popping each other's joints back into place
. He really made my day yesterday when I was having a whine about my dad going to see the horses without me (have been on holiday for two weeks, so my boy's going to start thinking I've abandoned him soon!) and Jay said he's fed up with them "trying to take over Sal" (I don't think this is actually the case, but he was feeling a bit cross and frustrated) and if I wanted him to, he'll start coming with me to do the mucking out and bits that my dad and step-mum normally help me with and that we'd "struggle on together". This was a lovely thing for him to say because he hates horses, having had a nasty accident as a kid.
It can be difficult for some people to get their heads around. My dad has often rolled his eyes and sighed impatiently when I've said I don't feel well enough to do something, simply because there's no visible evidence of something being wrong. When we were in Estonia I got very drunk
one evening and ended up doing a bit of odd, over-stretching contortionism while trying to change a DVD (don't ask.....) . I suffered for it the next day, and for the rest of the weekend, but my dad started on about "if you can twist like that you can do [whatever activity it is]".
I hope you manage to sort things out, and if he can't be sympathetic and get his head around EDS, I hope he can at least attempt to give you whatever help and support he can when you need it.