low confidence / feeling low

[cracker]

hiya guys i dont know if there a thread for this...........
does anyone get days where they have no confidence? i feel like i have no confidence when someones been mean or accused me of not been that bad.

(if there a topic can the mods move it to the right place please)

[mazza111]

I think that's normal even for "normal" people to feel like that Cracker. As soon as meanies are around they make us feel bad about ourselves. It's all part of the bullying process imho. Even though it's not bullying. It's the same kind of effect

[cracker]

thats true mazza i agree with u there.. it makes u feel like c**p tho

[mazza111]

Think the best thing you can try to do, and it's easier said than done, is ignore those comments hon.

[cracker]

i aggree with you there mazza111 but it is even worse when it is people that are closest to you that do it. that really hurts.

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[madmum]

There at the moment mate!

[mazza111]

Och I know it's worse when people around you don't understand. I get mad at my daughter sometimes too, not because I don't think she's in pain, but I think she could do more to help herself. Like registering for these forums! Having a read about the condition instead of sticking her head in the sand. I think it's just that people don't understand the pain your in on a daily basis, they don't mean it to hurt you

[madmum]

Sadly pain is a hidden quantity. We have learnt to cope with it so do not go around screaming and crying all the time so people do not believe we are in pain. The idiot consultant I saw did not believe how painful and debilitating my knee is.

[cracker]

sending confidence boosting hugs your way guys

[shah]

I've been a member here for quite a while but haven't really posted much, today I have hit the wall, I have a cold that has made me hurt really badly, lots of general aches but accompanied by shooting pains every so often. Work is hard right now I'm a teacher in a school that is under pressure so rarely leave work before 5:30 or later(which I know many of you do, it's a long day starting at 8 and no letup all day, school has done Way with staff room, very short half hour lunch and kids wanting your time all the time I'm mentally shattered, come Ofsted I'm in until 9 at night, sorry. It I'm tired of being attacked about being a slacker teacher which the media is determined to paint us as) by which time I have got cold and too many hours at the computer leave me in a lot of pain any way on top of which despite numerous conversations and showing him and getting very upset my other half never understands and is little or no help I have to ask for absolutely everything or get on with it myself I'm shattered and not coping, work also don't get it as I don't look ill not helped by permanently pale washed out skin that rarely flushes temperature or not! I now many of you have felt like me and I just needed to vent, even typing this has hurt like hell, where do you go when you have nothing left to give but seem left with no choice but to get on with it?

[mazza111]

Is it time for some time off sick perhaps? Maybe you need to be asking for more help. I know how hard teachers work, but in all honesty it sounds like you're really worn out and could use a good rest. Would it also be worthwhile asking for some help from the head or head of department?

[bendyneck]

Shah,
you poor thing sounds like you need some TLC. lots of gentle hugs

Don't be afraid to take some time off, and make a list of things you need help with at home, give your other half an ultimatum, otherwise you will end up in a real crisis. I always find things like hoovering, bed making and hanging up laundry the hardest. You need to learn how to pace yourself, and be strong you deserve the best.

There are lots of things you can do to help with the fatigue, I use a supportive seat in the car and at home and that has helped enormously, also wearing tube bandages on my knees and ankles at night, wearing orthotics, taking adequate rest etc.

All the best and keep your hopes up xxx

[juliepops]

Hi Shah
I agree with mazza111 that maybe it's time to ask for help. I completely understand the pressures of your job as a teacher. I "hit the wall" a couple of years ago whilst working as a teaching assistant. Once I had actually got signed off sick I was surprised at how supportive my colleagues were especially after explaining my condition to them. I'm not saying it was easy but it's what I needed to do at the time.
I really feel for you and hope things improve soon.
Keep strong!
sending gentle

Julie

[ali280]

hello,
sorry you feel so bad. I was a teacher till last year before my contract was terminated on the grounds of my ill health.
I know how difficult it is to balance work and the condition. I thought my world was ending when I lost my job, a year on my health is still rubbish but I have no work stress now.
what I am saying is that YOU are important and YOUR health is important too...if you need time off to heal and rest you should...work aint everthing and I learned that the hard way.!
if you ever need a chat just PM...
look after yourself
ali x

[lollipop]

Hello,

I think you just wrote my post for me. So sending you a big hug, I'm in work at 8am every morning and drained by 3.30pm, although I do go home by 4pm as I have a half hour drive and would just end up crashing the car because I'm so shattered.

Not sure how your staff around you are, can you ask them for support? Mine are useless, I'm currently underling going speech therapy after a 8month voice loss. When asked this morning how I got on, I replied that I didn't want to talk about it (was a really bad session and has me a little more than upset and deflated. I was told "not to get knickers in a twist!"

Sorry, having a moan on your thread. If you feel like the time off will help then take it, for me it's the answer as I don't feel I'd be able to return.

Big hugs xx