HMS is a DWP recognized disability, so yep employers will have to take it into consideration -for example afaiu sick days that are due to the disability are not to be counted as 'sick days', occupational health departments can help with making sure the workplace is set up right, they can get special chairs/equipment to help you being able to do your job etc
and yep diving headlong into a "normally full and active" life is most likely not such a good idea- so you'd have to maybe look into starting off with a part time job with a view to slowly over time try to increase the hours
(btw well done
to your daughter for currently managing 4 days at college)
and...re the pots... I had quite bad POTS probs (and regular full faints- though never as shockingly many in a day as your daughter- big hug to you and her!) in my teenage years- was on meds for a while (no idea what they were, it's a v v v long time ago )- but then had decades with v little pots probs (without meds)... so who knows...
I also dont really know what to say (or maybe better said how to say things) apart from such not really helpful generalisms as no one can tell what the future holds it all depends... and it all depends on v many different things... some under our control (how we manage/deal with our condition/s)... some way out of our control...
there is no "one" way how an HMSers life will progress/unfold... there's peops that spent some years in a wheelchair to then go on to no longer needing it, starting and keeping a job and then go on to have kids... and work...
others work really hard on managing the condition and chronic pain, have success, start up part time work, do really well for a while , only to be then hit by some new probs that do mean they once again become unable to work and they have to now use a wheelchair...
many of us have to adjust what we think of as 'full and active lives' - I feel mine is once again full and active and happy (!!)- but 'normal' it isnt-
but that can be great too- hannah on here had to give up a job she absolutely loved (she tried everything, worked sooo hard to keep it) and she was v v v gutted- and then one day decided to turn her 'doodling hobby' of drawing funny stickmen into a little book about HMS... now she has her own company, publishing stickmen books, she's done some children's books etc etc- and that was def not something that she ever planned for nor even at all had in her mind as a youngster- but which now makes her happy and fulfilled- the old 'something good can come out of something bad' can happen so I think... make and have plans, also have a plan b, and maybe c, d , but concentrate on the now, on the baby steps towards any planned results-
looking too much into the future can be just too overwhelming, which then might make achieving the baby step results harder-
and do the best you can, hope for the best, but be prepared for upsets, setbacks etc so that you dont get too upset, overwhelmed when things dont go according to plan
(and I feel/think... even for normies... life hardly ever goes 'always/in all areas of life' according to plan and the peops that get closest to achieving most of their life plan are the ones that deal best with set backs... and have dollops of luck
oh... and re getting details of peops's experiences with 'everything HMS' it's maybe best to try and find time to 'just' have a good nosey around the forum - and for any particular questions you have - like for example the qs in your post like is HMS covered under dda, pots, working full time or not, kids or not ... it is a good idea to use the search facility to see if a thread dealing with these or similar q s already exists - as that way you will find a wealth (though yep, sometimes this can feel like an overwhelming wealth) of info, experiences, thoughts, ideas etc
especially the advanced search options can be v helpful, particularly choosing the 'search topic titles only' option- for example putting in the words "future HMS EDS" and choosing that option found 3 other threads- 2 of which contained imo some helpful/relevant stuff-
also play around with wording of q s and try searching that way-
hope my overly long bla bla bla ; ) did help a wee bit