sillyoldbear wrote:Hi Notsparkly
First things first- sending you big and gentle hugs.
Although my children do not have health problems like yours coping with them is incredibly hard. I have a 2 1/2 year old girl and a 20month old boy. Most days I feel like I am about to have a meltdown and must say/feel on a daily basis that i cant cope and i need a break. You are right parenting with hms is physically and emotionally draining and getting through normal banal day to day life in incredibly tough. My partner is my carer and I honestly dont know how i would cope with the children at all without him- which makes me feel totally useless, and guilty and a whole host of other negative emotions. I realise that I am not really giving you any helpful advice here and I apologise- I suppose I just want you to know that you are not alone. Sometimes just talking to someone who can listen and understand can help with the emotional side of things. As far as the physical, well, the old pacing technique has got to be the best. I realise in situations where you are having to struggle with your child and when they are fighting with you that you cant just sit down and have a rest Maybe seeing as though its now the school holidays you need to find a new routine ( trying my best not to sound condescending, sorry) and rather than getting into a row/struggle just sit down and let him get on with his outburst and when he has calmed down a little, try again. I know this is much easier said than done and I really should take a leaf out of my own book at times and that also I know very little about you and your childrens personal situations and that this method may of course not be productive for you. If you continue to struggle maybe social services can help you a little bit- when my children were first born and before Ash became my carer a lady used to come to me once a week and take the baby for a walk for an hour- it really helped just to be able to have that little bit of time to sit and relax and let my body have a complete rest. Remeber you are not alone and you have a whole community of people here who will listen, not judge and support you
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