One of my sisters is as forgetful as anything. For example: she cleans my floors for pocket money each week. The other week when she arrived I asked her to make sure she puts things back when shes moved them - like not leaving the rug on the chair
. Her response was "but I don't!" looking bemused - actually she had left it on the chair for the past 4 weeks. she was about to leave and I said "did you put the rug back?" "I just did it" - look in the room and hey presto rug on chair.
She wasn't lying, she just forgot she hadn't. She also lives in a world of her own on occaision, and can seem slow on the uptake in some things, but she is actually very bright (age 13). I think she just gets wrapped up in what she is thinking about and forgets to register what is said to her/what she has just done. She requires a lot more supervision in doing chores than her 11 yr old sister. (they are both diagnosed HMS/EDS) Overall, she is a normal 13yr old though, and as a family I guess we've learnt to just accept it as a facet of her whole character - and tried to ensure that if something is really important, we follow it up and make sure she doesn't get that 'far away look' half way through the instructions. If the 'far away look' appears I try to remember that she hasn't registered whatever it was and try to tell her again later. But key is I have learnt that she likes to be spontaeous - just do things now, so although I will mention things in advance, I have found it much less stressful to tell her things when they become relevant. 2 of my brothers are also similar, (21yrs and 19yrs) but they have both improved with age - as in they are more able to recognise when something is important and actually register it. 21yrs brother is extremely dyslexic, the others aren't.
Incidentally although 21yrs brother found school pretty tough - he was really behind at primary school with reading etc, he is now studying at uni and doing really really well, and says if they found a miracle 'cure' for dyslexia he wouldn't touch it, because it is part of who he is.
Dunno if this is any help TED. can't remeber what point I was trying to make either
I too can talk for england - in case you hadn't noticed