My girlfriend

[cocol]

Don't think about her condition, just think about her It is nice when someone buys me something that helps me go through the day (herbal pills, new splint, etc) but I think is nicer when they bring me something that makes me feel human (chocolates, flowers). I know the first gift was because they worry about me and stuff and I love them but sometimes I just want to feel normal and not guilty for them thinking about my condition more than they think about me...

[flyingfairy]

Just remember she is still a normally person, her HMS is just what makes her even more special and why you love her soooooo much

[Guest]

I think she would be so touched if she could see your post. I think its great that you are being so supportive and understanding. I think it can be really hard to gauge how to respond to someone, especially when they are probably going through every emotion under the sun. Also with HMS, in my experience, each day seems to be different and I can be fine one day and then unable to walk with bad knees other days so I guess you have to tailor your support to the individual situation.

You know your girlfriend better than anyone and I'm sure you will learn in time to know how much obvious support to give some days and how maybe at other times just to be more subtle about it. I know I'm being really vague, I guess its just hard. Maybe talk to her and let her know your concerns about smothering her with attention etc, and let her know that she is free to tell you to back off if she likes

I just know that my ex was massively unsympathetic about my condition and it just makes me feel great that other people in couples are so brilliantly sensitive about it,

Good luck,

Eleanor xxx

[flyingfairy]

don't be afraid to ask questions and do research in to HMS. The internet is a great place to do this....