I would be fine coping with the strangers or aquaintences comments...If my family and friends werent just as bad! I really do have to fight my corner all the time. Even my partner doesn't fully understand and he sees me at my worst.
What is really annoying me at the minute though is my best friends insensitivity. She's regularly really upsetting/aggrivating me at the minute and seems blissfully unaware. I feel bad for being so annoyed, but I think that if anyone will understand it will be you guys!
She is well aware that I am in pain every day...well in the same way everyone else is aware. I've told her, she forgets/doesnt believe its that bad.
She's pregnant, and from early pregnancy began complianing about being in pain. I was sympathetic at first (I have no kids yet...the pregnant body is still a mystery to me!) but as time went on and her stomach swelled...the complaining became more. Soon she was complaining that she couldnt walk or get comfortable sitting or laying down, constantly. And I mean, every time she moved, she complained. This soon started to grate on my nerves, Im in pain every second of every day!! I dont tell everyone about it constantly!! And she knows this! Plus her pain will end when the baby is born, I'm stuck with mine for eternity!
I just feel that this is so insensitive. Dont get me wrong, I dont doubt her pain or that it may be extremely painful to her. Im just annoyed that she keeps on telling me about it considering my situation. I have replied with 'welcome to my world' a few times, but she wont take the hint.
Let me give you an analogy to help me get my point across; If something happened to you that left your legs temporarily numb, you wouldnt complain about it to someone who didnt have any legs would you??
Am I just being grumpy and selfish? Or can you guys see why it annoys me? I don't know what to do, but thankfully the baby is due in a few weeks!
Doc: "I think you may be someone who doesn't deal with pain very well"
Me: "Im in pain 24 hours a day. I work, I try to live a normal life, and im not curled up in a ball crying right now. I'd say I handle it rather well actually."