Thanks for the replies, and sorry for the delay in answering but my husband has been hogging the computer!
Don't worry, I am not in the least bit upset by the consultation. I was annoyed at the time because I find it infuriating how so many consultants seem to have an 'up-themselves' attitude and treat their patients with little respect. Luckily I have met a few Consultants who are pleasant, respectful and courteous - as well as interested!
I wasn't upset though. I think that I felt so little about it because there was nothing resting on this appointment, so to speak. Before I went I wasn't expecting the outcome to give me any answers or a miraculous cure. However, I have been in the same situation many times before, when the outcome of the appointment mattered very much. In those circumstances, I have been terribly upset, humiliated and disappointed. That's why I still feel so nervous before any new medical appointment, and why I like to be well-prepared.
So, in a very round about way (sorry!) I'm saying I'm fine, it's ok.
By the way, the reason the Consultant was angry, was because he said it was clear from my symptoms that they were being caused by nerve impingement/entrapment in my neck. Apparently if it was peripheral nerve damage the numbness etc would be felt in my hand ONLY (occasionally a little could be felt in the forearm) but the fact that mine is in the arms as well rules that out. So that makes the Nerve Conduction Studies needless. So people like me (charming!) are clogging up the system and some people who really need the tests because they are contemplating corrective surgery have to wait 12 months to find out important results.
I completely understand the situation, and why he must feel it is frustrating if patients are referred needlessly. But, that does not give him the right to treat me as if I'm a malingerer or time waster. ("Oh, so you get pain, do you? So, where do you get it then? Oh," - repeating what I've said- "itgoes down the back of your arms, does it?" etc)
The meds change was because I'm on Gabapentin for nerve pain and tolerating the side effects well but when I tried Fentanyl patches I couldn't tolerate the drowsiness. I wondered if I tried Pregablin (also called Lyrica) instead of the Gabapentin - because it has milder side effects - I might be able to tolerate the combination of Nerve pain tablet and opiate side effects better. That was complicated to explain - did it make sense?!
Anyway, thanks you lot for the support - I really appreciate it!
love Mari xx