by Rosie » Fri Jul 23, 2010 9:43 pm
Hi Tiz
About the help in hospital, start asking questions now about how much help will be available to you. Make sure it is written very clearly in your notes that you will need help with care of baby and yourself due to limited mobility. If special arrangements have to be made for you then they can start arranginf this now. It will make it more difficult for anyone to ignore your needs if you raise it now. Also, keep asking, whenever you see your midwife, obsteotrician (sp?) etc, keep asking, make sure they know this is a big concern for you.
If you do find yourself in a situation where you don't have the help you need, ask to see whoever is in charge of the ward, and show her (usually a her) your notes. Be polite but firm and hopefully the message will get through.
I know that the amount of help on offer can vary tremendously. I had a relative who had a ceasarian delivery of twins, and she was left alone all night (the first night) and then told off for not waking the babies up to feed them! She could barely get out of bed and was still affected by the GA. The second night she got stuck on the bed with a baby in each arm feeding them but as she couldn't move to put them down, she was there for 4 hours before the tea lady found her (she was in a single room). In the other maternity ward there was another lady who has a ceasarian, and the staff couldn't do enough for her. It really depends on the attitude of the peson on charge.
I can't say much about the scarring and second pregnancy, but I am sure someone will be along soon who knows more.
Rosie
Diagnosed HEDS December 1st 2005. DD1 (20) HEDS and scoliosis (now corrected by surgery), diagnosed June 2006. DD2 (18) mild HMS. Son (11) some hypermobile joints, poor muscle strength and seems to be developing scoliosis as well, woopee!